“Sons of Guns stars Stephanie Hayden and Kris Ford were arrested Friday in Louisiana,” tmz.com reports, “for allegedly hitting a 9-year-old boy with a belt so hard he bruised. Parish of Livingston officials tell us Kris abused Stephanie’s son from another relationship last month by striking the kid on his lower buttocks area. Stephanie was also taken into custody because her son told cops she was present in the room. She’s not being accused of hitting her kid.” Another Adrian Peterson-style case of down home corporal punishment taken too far? Time will tell. But if the case(s) of Will Hayden, Stephanie’s father, is any indication, this isn’t the end of this story.
Unless Kris hit the kid with a gun belt, I fail to see any relevance to guns in this post.
Show watched by a lot of people… Sons of Guns… like it or not, it comes up in gun and anti-gun conversations. Frankly, if Robert ignored it completely, it would make him look bad.
And what is up with her? She looks like someone in a “Don’t do meth” photo.
i thought she looked more like Phil Spector…different hair of course but the face…
My thoughts exactly!!!!!!
Yes! That was my first thought. She’s starting the long slide into addiction, the sunken eyes and bad skin. Bet her fingernails look like hell, chewed bloody.
The most annoying thing about gun blogs/forums is the douchebags who always complain whenever someone brings up something that’s not quite enough about guns. We all think guns are awesome, but even guns can get boring.
I stand by my statement. This is not “not enough about guns,” this is Maury Povich tabloid-TV BS that is (or should be) completely irrelevant to anyone who is not directly involved, either personally or professionally.
Relevant or not it’s good theater. Considering that the vast majority of the people of the gun despise the show and everyone in it.
Gov is right.
That said, as much as I despise these people as as much as she looks like a meth head in that pic, I think the charges sound pretty lame.
I’m not a big fan of corporal punishment in children, but I think every parent should have the right to decide for themselves how their kid is disciplined. Bruising a 9 year old isn’t that difficult.
@TheBear said:
“but I think every parent should have the right to decide for themselves how their kid is disciplined. Bruising a 9 year old isn’t that difficult.”
So even though a bruise is indicative of bodily damage, it’s okay to bruise a 9 year old because it “isn’t that difficult?”
Matt in FL can start his own blog and post what he thinks is relative to subject instead of complaining about what someone else thinks is relative to a subject.
Ooh, burn.
🙂
@John – Bodily damage? Really?
When using force to punish a child, the /point/ is to cause pain. Plus, if I grab my girlfriend with any strength at all or smack her on the butt, it leaves bruises. Some people bruise very easily so I think “bruises” used as a sign of child abuse is silly. Bruises on the /face/, hell yes. Bruises on the tush? No.
@TheBear said:
“Bodily damage? Really?”
Yes. Really. A contusion is bodily damage.
Contusion
http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=2838
A bruise, or contusion, is caused when blood vessels are damaged or broken as the result of a blow to the skin (be it bumping against something or hitting yourself with a hammer). The raised area of a bump or bruise results from blood leaking from these injured blood vessels into the tissues as well as from the body’s response to the injury. A purplish, flat bruise that occurs when blood leaks out into the top layers of skin is referred to as an ecchymosis.
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@TheBear said:
“When using force to punish a child, the /point/ is to cause pain.”
Why is it necessary to inflict physical pain on a child to correct their behavior?
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@TheBear said:
“Plus, if I grab my girlfriend with any strength at all or smack her on the butt, it leaves bruises.”
So you think it’s okay to grab your girlfriend and leave bruises?
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@TheBear said:
“Some people bruise very easily so I think “bruises” used as a sign of child abuse is silly. Bruises on the /face/, hell yes. Bruises on the tush? No.”
So no degree of bruising on a child’s bottom would ever rise to abuse?
@TheBear said:
“Plus, if I grab my girlfriend with any strength at all or smack her on the butt, it leaves bruises.”
So you think it’s okay to grab your girlfriend and leave bruises?
He didn’t say that. He said it happens. They could be having a tickle fight and she could get bruised.
@TheBear said:
“Some people bruise very easily so I think “bruises” used as a sign of child abuse is silly. Bruises on the /face/, hell yes. Bruises on the tush? No.”
So no degree of bruising on a child’s bottom would ever rise to abuse?
He didn’t say that.
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Putting words in someone’s mouth to set up a straw man that you can then knock down does not mean you’re winning the argument.
@ Matt in FL said:
“Putting words in someone’s mouth to set up a straw man that you can then knock down does not mean you’re winning the argument.”
I didn’t put any words in his mouth.
Based on his own words, it seemed he neither had a problem with bruising his girlfriend nor believing that bruises on a child’s bottom would be signs of abuse.
I asked questions that gave him the opportunity to clarify his meaning.
@ John
You’re being deliberately obtuse and you have an obvious agenda based on your other comments below.
Believe it or not, there are a lot of really intelligent posters here (that doesn’t include you). Feel free to ask vacuous, leading questions in response to other people’s comments. I won’t play anymore.
@TheBear said:
“Believe it or not, there are a lot of really intelligent posters here (that doesn’t include you). Feel free to ask vacuous, leading questions in response to other people’s comments. I won’t play anymore.”
Rather than a debate involving civil back-and-forth, you degenerate into closing out the discussion by hurling insults?
Lovely.
I hope you do a better job in winning fence-sitters over to our side of the gun-control debate.
This should be irrelevant, except that we all know that the antis will trot this story out to demonize the millions and millions of perfectly normal, safe, productive and drama-free American gun owners.
From Mr. Galt:
Mr. Galt seems to specialize in “Strawmans.” Every question he poses is a twisted version of an argument the commenter stated which happens to be easily defended by Mr. Galt.
I’m going to perform an “ad hominem tu quoque” myself by stating that Mr. Galt has performed an “ad hominem tu quoque” above.
Isn’t this fun Mr. Galt – spending a lot of time talking about little to nothing.
Anyone surprised? Apple=tree…And what’s happening with pops? BTW To ME Peterson is much worse. YMMV.
I would be shocked if this went anywhere. You put this in front of a Jury, you’re telling me that they can get 10 out of 12 jurors (Louisiana Law) to agree that this was child abuse?
It’ll get dropped.
Also, given the recent family events, would it surprise anyone if drugs were coming into play for Steph?
Update: The charges are actually “cruelty to a juvenile”.
§93. Cruelty to juveniles
A. Cruelty to juveniles is:
(1) The intentional or criminally negligent mistreatment or neglect by anyone seventeen years of age or older of any child under the age of seventeen whereby unjustifiable pain or suffering is caused to said child. Lack of knowledge of the child’s age shall not be a defense;
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D. Whoever commits the crime of cruelty to juveniles shall be fined not more than one thousand dollars or imprisoned with or without hard labor for not more than ten years, or both.
So what did the kid do wrong? Maybe it was “justified” lol
Yikes…she looks like a meth-head…
Never underestimate the value of a professional make-up team. She looks totally hot by the time they have her camera-ready.
Now, the real question: does a spanking become abuse merely because it results in bruising?
I’d say no question if the skin was broken, that would make it a flogging.
When I was a kid, I showed up at the ER with bruises all over both arms. I’d fallen off my bike and sprained my wrist a couple of days after wrestling with my brother’s dog. I was wearing a jacket and the dog had grabbed my arms in her mouth. It didn’t really hurt, we were just playing, but my arms were bruised the next day.
ER staff was VERY interested in the bruising. It almost went badly because I didn’t want them to sic animal control on the family dog, but fortunately I told them the truth and they weren’t interested in the dog.
I haven’t watched the show so I wouldn’t know. …just looking at the mug shot.
‘Totally hot’ is a bit of a stretch.
Hot? Huh?
I’d be willing to bet this reply gets moderated, but here goes…
When you are the only clam in the snake pit, you can start to look pretty hot.
well that’s the end of red jacket!they might as well get into the used car business, will never sell another gun to any American or any law enforcement agency or military contractor ever again they might as well close up shop.and on the alleged child abuse charges, those sound like a bunch of BS I got my butt tore off with a belt many a times when I was younger and turned out perfectly alright.
This is just another chapter in the ongoing Progressive war on the family. It’s everywhere if you look for it.
Another chapter in the ongoing Progressive war on the family is hooking up, shacking up, committing adultery, bearing children out of wedlock, broken families, blended families, etc. Get married and stay married, folks.
Better yet, don’t get married, don’t have kids. The world is overpopulated by around 100%.
Yeah, that way the Jihadists don’t have to kill us, they’ll just out-breed us like they’ve been doing.
By a large margin, a growing population has always meant growing prosperity. In the modern world, poverty and starvation are political creations and have nothing to do with a scarcity.
The world isn’t overpopulated. We’re obsessed with city living and have no interest in living in a sustainable/ecp friendly agrarian economy. It never ceases to amaze me that the younger generations have no desire to have children. Usually with the justification/excuse of “I get to do what I want and have more money for me!”
Darwinism at it’s finest I suppose, the selfish will breed themselves out of existence.
@Christian,
More educated people with higher salaries are more likely to have less kids than the opposite.
I am choosing not to have kids. That choice has little do do with “selfishness”. I’ve avoiding be more snarky right now with an effort of will.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=icmRCixQrx8
“the world is overpopulated, but we must breed more than the other side because we dont like them”
Idiotic logic.
Here’s an idea: get a fvcking handle on the amount of mouths to feed on the planet before we are all driven into extinction. That “logical enough” for ya?
Some of you prove the very reason why I support abortion…
@ LC
So you complain about idiotic logic by crafting an idiotic statement that no one made in the first place. This is another problem with the left, they don’t understand the issue at hand when making a statement. We don’t have a numbers problem, it’s a logistics problem. The left (don’t know, don’t care about you’re political leanings, but the statement does mirror them) seems to not realize, forget or ignore the advances in farming that has taken place in the last couple of centuries in which farms have been able to sustain or even increase yields (generally) with smaller number of individual farms and less farmers each year. It’s almost meaningless to compare a farmer or farm of today, especially in America, to ones a hundred years or even 50 years ago. It’s as if you ignore the natural progress of technology and modern farming methods.
If you weren’t such a ignorant douchebag, you would know the following facts
1.) Technological advancement is completed through energy transactions. This hasn’t changed.
2.) Energy and resources are FINITE, meaning, there is a limited number.
3.) Farming practices are disproportionately reliant on petrochemicals, which are depleting in supply
4.) The concept of “carrying capacity” is not a liberal or conservative issue. Grow up. Pull your head out of your @ss.
5.) No animal/creature, to include man, is immune from the laws of carrying capacity.
6.) Food production, in its current state, is unable to sustain exponential growth of the human population. You know what exponential growth is, right?
7.) Finally, dont lecture me on real world issues. Having worked in developing nations, I witnessed the consequences of ignorant, wishful thinking like your ilk frequently engages in. Misplaced optimism is putting it nicely.
I’m only here to LOL all over your face. Seriously? Lol. Dude. get out of the 1940’s already. We won WW2. You’re ok.
Then why the aversion to using capital letters? We are talking about corporal punishment, not capital punishment. Are the two related?
So, because you turned out “alright” it makes it okay to hit a 9 year old until they have welt and bruises, gotchcha.
Well, before I answer that, I’d like to know if he killed the family dog, broke his baby sister’s arm, spilled his cheerios, or what. Your post sounds like you’d say no it’s not OK, even if he set the neighbors’ house on fire.
If the State administered the same punishment to an adult convicted of a crime, it would be considered cruel.
Why is it not cruel when a child is involved?
I suspect a good number of people who say “well I turned out okay” have a severe case of Stockholm Syndrome.
If he set a house on fire, a belt won’t fix that. It’s juvie time.
Singapore. Caning. Low crime rates. Boo hoo.
@TheBear said:
“Singapore. Caning. Low crime rates. Boo hoo.”
Okay. Let’s play that game.
Singapore. No gun for you. Low crime rates. Boo hoo.
In Singapore: Stiff penalties for unlawful possession
http://www.stasiareport.com/the-big-story/asia-report/singapore/story/singapore-stiff-penalties-unlawful-possession-20130808
Gun control laws in Singapore are among the strictest in the world.
The two main statutes governing firearms are the Arms Offences Act and the Arms and Explosives Act.
They spell out tough penalties for both illegal possession and unlawful use of guns.
For instance, anyone caught unlawfully possessing a gun or ammunition can be jailed for between five and 10 years, and given at least six strokes of the cane, according to the Arms Offences Act.
Anyone caught using an illegal firearm faces the death penalty. Arms traffickers also face the death penalty, or they can be jailed for life and given at least six strokes of the cane
A licence is required for legal gun ownership in Singapore, for which the applicant must fulfil a series of strict requirements.
Some of these requirements include a genuine reason for possessing a gun, and the ability to prove that there is a “serious threat to his life and no other way of overcoming/removing the threat”.
Applicants must pass stringent background checks that would look into their criminal, medical and mental health records. They are also required to pass a shooting proficiency test.
As a result of the tough laws and regulations, private gun ownership in Singapore is among the lowest in the world.
According to a 2007 study by Small Arms Survey, an independent research outfit in Geneva, the rate of private gun ownership in Singapore is about one gun per 200 people.
This is compared with 88.8 privately held guns per 100 people in the United States, which topped the list of 178 countries that were surveyed.
@John
You need a Waaaaahmbulance. 🙂
@ Mr. Galt:
Why would it be considered cruel if the same punishment was administered by the state to an adult convicted of a crime? Why is cruel when a child is involved? What is cruel and who determines what cruel is?
Since you added it with your argument above – This is an “abusive ad hominem.” Furthermore, since you state that if someone simply states a particular argument they have stockholm syndrome it is also a fallacy. As they could have stockholm syndrome if they stated it or did not state it or they could state it or not state it and not have stockholm syndrome.
You’re probably a shelter spoonfed individual born with a silver spoon in your mouth. Mommy and daddy never punished you because you always got what you wanted. My parents worked my ass with a belt anytime I did anything wrong I’m United States Marine I have my own home my own family I turned out fine. It’s not a matter of being beat with a belt because your parents are mad at you it’s a matter of you learning right from wrong. Mom’s favorite was the wooden spoon dads was the belt. If a kid throws a ball through a window on purpose and you tell them not to do that because it’s not right might not get the message through his head you tell a kid with a belt that that’s not right and you whoop that ass probably not gonna happen again now will it. My kids know the rules. You break them you pay the price. I bet you’re that person at Walmart that has the two terrible kids and scream and cry whenever they don’t get whatever they want.
@Ben said:
“You’re probably a shelter spoonfed individual born with a silver spoon in your mouth. Mommy and daddy never punished you because you always got what you wanted.”
Unable to control his seething anger, Ben begins the debate with an ad hominem attack based on his own fantasies of who I am.
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@Ben said:
“My parents worked my ass with a belt anytime I did anything wrong I’m United States Marine I have my own home my own family I turned out fine.”
So Ben is essentially saying that because he “turned out fine” that it was okay that his parents beat him with a belt (or spoon). That means it was okay to inflict violence upon him “anytime [he] did anything wrong?”
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@Ben said:
“It’s not a matter of being beat with a belt because your parents are mad at you it’s a matter of you learning right from wrong. Mom’s favorite was the wooden spoon dads was the belt.”
Here Ben is saying that his parents’ good intentions are what counts. Any fear, pain, humiliation, rejection etc. that Ben might have experienced while he was being beaten doesn’t count. Their intention was pure, so the violence was okay?
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@Ben said:
“If a kid throws a ball through a window on purpose and you tell them not to do that because it’s not right might not get the message through his head you tell a kid with a belt that that’s not right and you whoop that ass probably not gonna happen again now will it.”
So if a parent can’t effectively communicate with their child, then the parent should beat the child to improve communication?
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@Ben said:
“My kids know the rules. You break them you pay the price.”
Ben is saying that he is the ultimate authority and shall not be questioned. Violate his rules, and the cycle of abuse and violence will continue into the next generation. He will show them who is boss.
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@Ben said:
“I bet you’re that person at Walmart that has the two terrible kids and scream and cry whenever they don’t get whatever they want.”
Ben bookends his rage-filled argument with yet another ad hominem attack. Knowing nothing about me, he conjures up a picture from his imagination.
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I’m truly sorry your parents beat you the way they did.
I pray you can refrain from doing the same to your own children.
I agree, Ben spare the rod spoil the child, this is why kids now a days are so *ucked up they are never told no or taught right from wrong I am the 6th of 7 children my parents set the rules and if you broke them you knew the consequences, Even though we used time outs with my kids and groundings, (believe it or not kids would rather get the belt than be grounded to thier room for a week) Especially if you took all thier tech toys away!!!! JMO
I strongly agree with spanking children. You see the end results of the “no spanking” generation when you hear about the next mass shooting, murderer, or, less publicly damaging in some aspects, spoiled little sociopath that runs a financial company.
Parents are breeding self entitled little fvcking monsters.
@ Mr. Galt:
This is an ad hominem for an ad hominem.
When is violence ok and when is it not ok? Why is it not ok to inflict violence on him, Mr. Galt? Why do you not seek to refute the central argument?
You are seeking clarifications to questions based on statements Ben didn’t actually make. Ben made no statements regarding the purity or intentions of his parents, therefore your questions above are based on speculation.
Asking for clarification on communication is understandable. Questioning that “the parent should beat the child to improve communication” is a straw man. You have purposely twisted his statement into one you can easily defend, in lieu of attempting to refute the central argument.
I partially agree with you in that “Ben is saying that he is the ultimate authority and shall not be questioned.” However, Ben did not say “Violate his rules, and the cycle of abuse and violence will continue into the next generation.” This is a strawman in that you misrepresented his argument and made an unsubstantiated assertion on the basis of your opinion.
of course I don’t think it’s alright to hit a 1 year old. We’re not talking about a one year old we were talking about a 7 or a 9 year old little boy. And when I was seven and nine years old I did some things that I deserve to get my butt or awful by my father. It made me a better person and made me realize right and wrong which is the problem with kids today they don’t have any understanding of what’s right and wrong because parents spoil them rotten.
@david said:
“kids today they don’t have any understanding of what’s right and wrong because parents spoil them rotten.”
So the only way to raise kids so they aren’t spoiled rotten is to hit them?
Really?
Violence – a family tradition: Robbyn Peters Bennett at TEDxBellingham
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLMJHdySgE8
Strawman. Next.
John Galt, STFU with the strawman arguments.This “you spank them? that is abuse!” logic of yours is idiotic
I hope you haven’t raised any fvcking kids because we dont need any more irresponsible adults filling our prisons and social services.
This is a strawman Mr. Galt. David never stated that the only way to raise kids so they aren’t spoiled rotten is to hit them – you did. You seem to have purposely misrepresented his statements into a form you think you can easily defend. Also, you have refocused the argument to this posed question.
Jesus – What a train wreck.
Dysfunction taken to generations. A trek downward for many. What not to do.
Abuse upon abuse upon abuse…down through the generations.
I don’t want to downplay child abuse, but this particular incident doesn’t count in my book. Hit with a belt on the ass until bruised? So was I. And I deserved it, and it taught me a lesson that things like ‘timeouts’ didn’t. That being said, I have no idea the extent or frequency with which this happened. If it was an everyday occurrence, that’s a bit much. If the kid got punched or hit with hard objects or had bruised ribs, a bloody lip, etc, that’s too much.
But if you can get far more injured by falling off your bike than getting a spanking, I’d hardly call that ‘abuse.’
And please don’t lump hitting a kid with a belt in with sexually abusing them (re: the accusations against Will). Sexually abusing a child might be the one crime where cruel and unusual punishment is warranted.
Hit with a belt on the ass until bruised? So was I.
If someone did the same to a complete stranger, they’d be charged with assault and battery.
Why is assault and battery okay when the person is your child?
And if someone had sex with your wife it would be either rape or adultery. Words have meanings, spanking and assault are two distinctly different things. Although leaving welts or bruises is a good sign you took it too far.
What is the precise distinction between assault and spanking?
Assault:
noun
1. a sudden, violent attack; onslaught:an assault on tradition.
2. Law. an unlawful physical attack upon another; an attempt or offer to do violence to another, with or without battery, as by holding a stone or club in a threatening manner.
3. Military. the stage of close combat in an attack.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/assault?s=ts
Spank:
verb (used with object)
1. to strike (a person, usually a child) with the open hand, a slipper, etc., especially on the buttocks, as in punishment.
noun
2. a blow given in spanking; a smart or resounding slap.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/spank?s=t
And how is it that spanking is not a “sudden, violent attack” on a child?
Are children lesser beings than adults?
What philosophical underpinnings support your contention that it’s okay to hit a child?
A spanking is not violent or an attack. This is the same nonsense the left is always pushing. They water down the meaning of words like racism and torture and in the process those words lose their meaning because people start ignoring them. A slap is not an assault, it’s a slap. A spanking is intended to discipline a child, an assault is intended to do injury. You’re conflating a slap with a punch. They are not the same thing and you know it.
Are children lesser beings than adults? Yes. They are smaller in stature and are lacking the life experiences necessary to make wise decisions.
What philosophical underpinnings support your contention that it’s okay to hit a child? How about several thousands of years of tradition? How about the Bible? Spare the rod spoil the child? Ever heard that one? It’s the philosophy that you shouldn’t spank your children that is new.
Sidenote: conflate is one of my most favorite words.
@Gov. William J. Le Petomane said:
“A slap is not an assault, it’s a slap. A spanking is intended to discipline a child, an assault is intended to do injury.”
Try slapping your wife the next time she needs discipline.
How about slapping the person who cuts in front of you in the checkout line.
Better yet, try slapping somebody else’s child when they need discipline.
Oh wait, how about slapping a cop who’s abusing his authority.
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@Gov. William J. Le Petomane said:
“Are children lesser beings than adults? Yes. They are smaller in stature and are lacking the life experiences necessary to make wise decisions.”
So because they are small in stature and lacking life experience, we should take a belt to them in order to inflict pain and scare them? That helps them become wiser how?
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@Gov. William J. Le Petomane said:
“What philosophical underpinnings support your contention that it’s okay to hit a child? How about several thousands of years of tradition? How about the Bible? Spare the rod spoil the child?”
You haven’t provided a reason. You’ve simply used the logical fallacy of appealing to tradition.
Appeal to Tradition
http://www.logicallyfallacious.com/index.php/logical-fallacies/43-appeal-to-tradition
There are many (barbaric) traditions that are still accepted in the world:
The barbaric tradition of ritual baby tossing: Priests hurl children 30ft from temple balcony for ‘good luck’
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2126845/Baby-tossing-ritual-Karnataka-India-Priests-hurl-children-30ft-good-luck.html
Would someone please give Mr. Galt a participation trophy so we can get on with our lives.
Ah, so it finally comes to this…the ad hominem attack.
Personal attack only refuge of too many angry but misguided critics
http://www.seattlepi.com/local/opinion/article/Personal-attack-only-refuge-of-too-many-angry-but-1148971.php
In politics, schools, religious institutions and in the media the ad hominem argument and personal attack has become the first and last refuge and tool for many angry but misguided critics. Unable or unwilling to identify and discuss the issues or to marshal evidence or convincing arguments, the personal attack has become the stock in trade in our society. So, rather than debate, for example, the policies and record of a mayor, school superintendent, principal, university president or pastor, critics go for the jugular with personal attacks and character assassination.
No ad hominem attacks here. I’ve just grown tired of your bloviating. You’re not going to change my opinion and I’m not going to change yours. So congratulations, you have officially participated in an inane on line argument. There are no winners and there are no losers, so here’s your participation trophy. Have a nice day.
@Gov. William J. Le Petomane said:
“No ad hominem attacks here. I’ve just grown tired of your bloviating.”
So rather than close out the thread as a gentleman, Gov has to close out by hurling an insult.
“So congratulations, you have officially participated in an inane on line argument.”
Inane? Really? So discussion of the merits of spanking and beating children is inane (lacking sense, significance, or ideas; silly)?
“so here’s your participation trophy. Have a nice day.”
Sarcasm doesn’t do much in winning people over to one’s point of view. I hope you use a different tactic in promoting the 2nd Amendment.
” slapping your wife the next time she needs discipline.”
Strawman argument. Your wife should have the mental capacity to ascertain right and wrong, if not, then she is mentally disabled and your marriage is illegal.
“How about slapping the person who cuts in front of you in the checkout line.”
Again, another strawman. The person in front of you has the cognitive ability to understand right and wrong, and to make logical decisions. Ill count these two strawmen as strike 1.
“Better yet, try slapping somebody else’s child when they need discipline.”
You dont have custody of their kids, so why would this be acceptable? Strike 2.
“Oh wait, how about slapping a cop who’s abusing his authority.”
As desirable as that may be, that cop is another adult perfectly able to understand right from wrong, and make logical decisions to provide a amicable solution to problems. Strike 3. GTFO.
So thats 3 for 3. You struck out.
Unlike other more kind people here, I dont give participation trophies, I tell you to GTFO and you end up with nothing. Fortunately for you, I dont give spankings. Unfortunately for you, particularly if you are out of shape, I smoke the dogshit out of you until you start to gain some IQ points from the lactic acid buildup in your muscles.
(schmuck)
@ Mr. Galt:
What philosophical underpinnings support your contention that it is not okay to hit a child?
@ Mr. Galt:
This discussion, Mr. Galt, is about a father disciplining his son by means of physical force to induce pain. Not between a wife and a husband, people at the store, someone else’s child, or a cop. All of your statements above are faulty comparisons.
Strawman. Mr. Petomane did not make any statement suggesting that pain or fear changes a degree of wisdom in an individual. He merely stated children lack the life experiences to make wise decisions. Your questioning redirects the topic to a question you feel is likely more easily defendable while misrepresenting Mr. Petomane’s argument.
That is correct. Mr. Petomane did present a fallacy, however you did not refute his argument.
@ Mr. Galt:
Mr. Petomane did not perform an hominem attack because he did not use the statement to support his argument. Furthermore, just because he makes a statement that could be construed as an insult doesn’t mean his statement is false.
The discussion of the merits of spanking children is not inane (at least to me). But I see you continually attack his statements (even by misrepresentation) but not directly and concisely volunteering your own for debate or directly refuting his. I do see this as inane, as it is just a endless venting argument that goes nowhere.
Why are you talking about the second amendment? The discussion was the merits and philosophical underpinnings of spanking children. Instead of endlessly arguing by means of attempting to have Mr. Petomane disprove you, why didn’t you attempt to disprove him? An endless dialogue of Mr. Petomane making a statement which you attack but provide no refutation, in my opinion, is indeed inane.
I hate to jump back in this but I will clarify one thing. Mr. Galt said,
‘“What philosophical underpinnings support your contention that it’s okay to hit a child? How about several thousands of years of tradition? How about the Bible? Spare the rod spoil the child?”
You haven’t provided a reason. You’ve simply used the logical fallacy of appealing to tradition.’
Mr. Galt asked for philosophical underpinnings, as in ‘what philosophy do you base your contention on?’ Christianity is a philosophy (not to be confused with a religion, that would be the Catholic Church for example) that not only has billions of followers but is the whole foundation of western civilization. Furthermore, the philosophies of the Old Testament are the foundation of both Judaism and Islam. Roughly 3/4 of the population of the world has a philosophical foundation based on all or parts of the Bible.
Yet when I cite that as a philosophical underpinning he comes back with ‘You haven’t provided a reason. You’ve simply used the logical fallacy of appealing to tradition.’ I was never asked for a ‘reason’ and in actually, asking for a philosophy is no different than asking what traditions I base my beliefs on. So when I give a clear and concise answer that he doesn’t agree with he dismisses my answer as though I didn’t answer his question. This is a clear sign that you are arguing with an unreasonable person, which is totally pointless.
Stop being silly. You likely never raised a child.
Obviously you would want to use words to teach a child that they did wrong, but that doesn’t always work. At a very young age words/yelling tends to work fine with most children. When kids get older that isn’t always the case. In some situations a light spanking or slap on the hand is warranted for some children to understand they did wrong and they shouldn’t do it again.
Spanking isn’t supposed to be a serious strike. Spanking at a moderate power can leave a bruise. Just because there is a bruise doesn’t mean you hit the child like a grown man. Some people bruise very easily. For instance, a 3 year old girl pinched me, I ended up with a noticeable bruise. Does that mean a 3 year old girl heavily abused me, therefore must be arrested? Once that 3 year old girl punched my leg, leaving a serious looking bruise. Who is going to actually think that 3 year old girl seriously beat/abused me?
What you are arguing is semantics and philosophy. In reality you are being unreasonable. Spanking some stranger (who is a functional adult) is obviously different than spanking your own child for the sake of teaching them acceptable behavior, responsibility and that there’s consequences for their actions. Can you seriously have the same level of conversation that you have with an adult with every child? From my experience, no you cannot always teach a child through words, they don’t comprehend, sometimes they need a light slap on the hand to realize they did wrong. There is a difference…
Assault and battery are different things. Assault can be simply placing your hand on someone that doesn’t want you to. Battery would be striking a person. The legal definitions are important. Not every statute has the same definitions. There is a reason why we have different words in English.
Are you going to seriously argue that a parent “assaulted” their child because they grabbed the child when the child didn’t want to be touched? If that is the case you are either lacking cognitively or you’re a government totalitarian trying to take over the role of parents.
@CZJay said:
“Stop being silly. You likely never raised a child.”
So, you start with an ad hominem attack. Lovely.
Since you’re not amenable to any kind of civil discussion, I’ll refer to you to some articles so you can broaden your understanding.
Charles Barkley defends it, Cris Carter decries it, but studies show spanking can change brain chemistry
http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2014/09/15/charles-barkley-defends-it-cris-carter-decries-it-but-studies-show-spanking-can-change-brain-chemistry/
The case against spanking
http://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/04/spanking.aspx
Adrian Peterson case exposes America’s blurred lines between discipline and abuse
http://www.theguardian.com/sport/2014/sep/17/adrian-peterson-blurred-lines-discipline-abuse-parenting
Studies show spanking is harmful and it is time for the US to ban it
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/danthropology/2014/09/studies-show-spanking-is-harmful-and-it-is-time-for-the-us-to-ban-it/
Why Spanking Should Be Discouraged – Cornell University
http://www.human.cornell.edu/ pam/ outreach/ parenting/ research/ upload/ Spanking-Research-Brief.pdf
The statement “Why is assault and battery okay when the person is your child” – is a strawman. Making the comparison to a stranger and assault and battery is a valid (despite not being equivalent), however redirecting the focus of the topic of assault and battery of an adult to a child when Nigil never implied such is a misrepresentation of Nigil’s statement. Furthermore, The above is not a fair comparison. A father disciplining his child by means of spanking is not comparable to a stranger performing “assault and battery” on another stranger with a belt.
I agree.
I remember when I was in public schools in the late 90s the principal hit me in the butt with a giant solid oak paddle (forget leather belt).
I’m not really into hitting anyone (my kids included) as there are better ways to punish. But I honestly don’t see any child abuse. Everyone has their own methods that work. I see people here talking about spanking making emotional scars or what not. That is the point right? So they are punished for their mistakes and don’t repeat them. Prison leaves emotional scars as well. Should we stop sending people to prison? I was spanked when I was little, my wife was spanked when she was little. Honestly, I feel we are better for it. Children have to have boundaries and parents have to keep them within those boundaries.
Aside from the most violent offenses, there are better ways of rehabilitating people than locking them in a cage for a specified period of time. Why are we locking people up for victimless crimes?
The United States has the highest incarceration rate in the world. Just as we have a military-industrial complex, we have a prison-industrial complex.
Our prisons are for the most part nothing more than crime factories, churning through “inventory” without any appreciable improvement in society. Instead they learn to be better criminals.
More “punishment” should be focused on restitution. Give the perpetrator responsibility for making the victim whole.
Future generations will look back and be appalled.
Much the same way we look at the following and consider them appalling and barbaric (even though they are or were accepted forms of punishment by “civilized” societies).
* crucifixion
* beheading
* cutting off hands, feet, tongues
* drawing and quartering
* tarring and feathering
* castration
* burning at the stake
* crushing by elephant
* breaking wheel
* flaying
* stoning
* keelhauling
* garrotting
Exactly, well put!!
As I have always argued, spanking should be reserved for only the most egregious violation where life and limb of another person or themselves are put at risk. Such as, playing with firearms, throwing rocks at traffic, playing with matches, taking dad’s hunting knife to school, playing inside a parent’s car without their permission, etc. No different than when adults do stupid shit with guns, and a rangemaster grabs their gun, strongly emphasizing that it should remain pointed down range (have any of you fvcktwits dealt with privates?)
I can think of less than a handful of times I swatted my kids on the ass, and it was for TWO of the list of offenses I mentioned above (taking dad’s knife to school and playing with matches). Mind you, this was after verbally emphasizing the importance previously of not doing those things. And they never did it again (and, gee, the one is in pre-med and the other is a engineering major…and they both have the same viewpoint as I do and are considered “model citizens” ((and then some)). Problem solved. Not even remotely in the same universe as Dave Pelzer levels of sheer abuse.
If my version of last resort discipline is “child abuse”, then defending your life when all options are exhausted is “murder”. Isn’t absolutism fun?
and i agree. just because prison is a altering experience, doesn’t mean it should be disregarded (and american gladiator prisons ARE abuse). I agree with Norway’s perspective on dealing with criminality issues and it yields much mroe desirable results (im personally opposed to the death penalty). Imprisoning somebody for smoking pot or owning a certain type of gun is not acceptable. Imprisoning a rapist, murderer, or robber is perfectly acceptable.
You dont hold children accountable, then society, through tax money, eventually holds them accountable when they inevitably do stupid shit that harms or takes away other people.
No surprise there. A victim of child abuse gets involved in a relationship with a child abuser. The sad thing is, people like Kris can spot a victim, such as Stephanie, very easily. And because of what she has experienced, she ends up being attracted to the abusive type. Some job Will did on her, he basically set her up for this when he abused her.
But I’m not sure what you mean by “a case of down home punishment taken too far?” Are you saying that spanking that leaves no bruises is OK? Because I have news for you. Any spanking or physical violence towards a child will set him/her up to be just another victim and they will end up in an abusive relationship or be the abuser. I mean, would you say it’s OK to hit your spouse or partner? That’s called assault or battery. But when people do it to little defenseless kids they just put a nice fuzzy word on it like ‘discipline’ and all is well…Give me a break. You punish a kid by taking away their toys or forbid them from doing something they like, or ground them, and at the same time you explain why they’re being punished. Hitting a child creates nothing but problems down the road. And for all of you who want to say ‘well I was spanked and I turned out ok,’ I’m almost certain you hit=abuse your kids as well and call it discipline. That’s just effin peachy.
Well, that’s your opinion, and the opinion of many others over the past 50 years. The concept has been growing in approval curiously coincident with the slide down the tubes our society has been taking. Kids are much more inclined to be drug dependent aimless losers than 50 years ago. All is fine, except when somebody claims to know, for sure, just what causes what. Because that is BS, nobody knows just what a particular attitude or action will cause in 30 years from now.
If you think that’s just my opinion, you’re very much mistaken. And victims of sexual or physical abuse are at a higher risk of substance abuse. Combine that with today’s prevalence and ease of access to all the illicit substances and you’ll have your explanation. Although this isn’t anything new.
Hitting children is not necessary to instill discipline.
There are myriad ways to discipline a child without resorting to violence.
Hitting children is no different than hitting one’s spouse.
It’s assault and battery.
Hitting children may not be necessary, however is hitting children to instill discipline morally wrong? Why is hitting children to instill discipline morally wrong but those myriad of other ways not? Is violence morally wrong if is saves lives now or later?
A father disciplining his son by inducing physical pain (which is what we were talking about) is different than hitting one’s spouse. The context matters in this statement. The determination of “Assault and battery” is up to the opinion of the responding officer. To many, spanking a child instills obedience. To others, it is assault and battery.
Huge difference between discipline and child abuse….and as someone else noted there is a very interesting trend towards our out of control society and “spare the rod” mentality.
Demonstrate the correlation between not hitting children and “out of control society.”
Are you saying that physical punishment is bad because it causes your child to physically punish your grandchildren, which is bad because physical punishment is bad?
I believe that’s called circular reasoning.
“Physical punishment” as you call it is assault and battery by another name.
It’s a violation of another person.
Nobody has a “right” to commit battery on another person except in self defense.
That is a black and white fallacy. What about when disciplining a child, violence, in specific instances, helps them or others? If a mentally ill patient refuses to leave a burning building, when is violence appropriate as a mentally ill patient cannot be reasoned with. If a small child is performing a dangerous act and repeatedly does so, and cannot be reasoned with, when is violence appropriate?
You speak of rights, but great thinkers of rights (such as John Locke) supported the use of physical pain on children to discipline them (as a last resort).
Where did I say that? How about abuse by any other name is still abuse. And yes, abuse breeds abuse. Just like talking to your kid, explaining what they did wrong and punishing them in any reasonable way other than physical force will cause your kid to reason with their peers and their children later on. This is not circular reasoning, it’s logical deduction.
It’s beyond me why so many folks here are fine with using physical force to correct a person’s behavior. What if somebody did that to you? If they beat you, whether you bruise or not, can they claim they’ve just disciplined you? Or are you going to defend yourself and get them arrested?
I knew from the day this show aired this family was trouble. Never liked the show, never like the family. Glad this garbage is off the air as it did nothing to promote and strengthen positive pro gun culture.
Ditto.
Show was a walking, talking caricature of a stereotype.
A belt? A bruise? When I was 10 I had to go out into the pear orchard adjacent my grandparents property and pick my own switch off of the ground (not off of the tree because I wasn’t allowed to damage the neighbors property, but the switch still had to be green. Which meant a long time searching to think about what I’d done.) After that one incident I was on my best behavior when visiting relatives. I’m 23 now, to put that into a time frame.
Spanking is appropriate when the child is of a certain age and commits acts warranting that punishment. Should you put out cigarettes on their arm for back talking? No. But spanking a kid with a belt for an infraction of a certain severity is fine, I think.
Spanking is entirely inappropriate.
It wreaks emotional havoc on the child and teaches that those with authority have the right to abuse those who are powerless to stop them.
I was spanked occasionally as a child. I am not generally in favor of it, but I since I am not a career felon/drug addict/street prostitute I have a hard time believing it is as damaging as you insist.
I believe there are better ways to teach children but it is not the end of the world either. Violence happens. People deal.
You’re saying:
* I was spanked as a child.
* I am not a career felon/drug addict/street prostitute.
* Therefore, spanking children is okay since I’m not a career felon/drug addict/street prostitute.
One could just as easily say:
* I was overindulged and spoiled as a child.
* I am not a career felon/drug addict/street prostitute.
* Therefore, overindulging and spoiling children is okay since I’m not a career felon/drug addict/street prostitute.
@ John Galt:
One could easily say a lot John. It doesn’t necessarily mean any of it is proven true or false.
Um pretty sure my father leaving when I was 2, and the lifetime of infrequent visits, missed birthdays and broken promises did more damage emotionally than the occasional spanking I got for acting out. But hey, that’s just me. It’s not like I have any idea what my emotional state is or anything…
“Spanking is entirely inappropriate.”
Thats your opinion, although it isn’t based on fact. This is a common retort from somebody that 1.) hasn’t raised kids, and, 2.) somebody that raises little fvcking sociopaths that have no concept of morality or acceptable behavior.
Dont worry. You are succeeding in this culture war. And its showing.
Wow, this LC guy speaks like a true abuser. And I just love his argument: “You don’t have any kids so you don’t know what it’s like. If you had kids, you’d hit them each time they misbehaved, the same way I do! Besides, hitting children has no negative effect on them. If you say it does it’s just your opinion, man!”
Yes LC, there’s no research at all proving what detrimental effect spanking a child can have in his/her later years and in their development in general. I just made it all up a few hours ago and I bring it up for no reason, just to piss people off. Yeah, that must be it.
Reading LC’s posts makes me sick. But apparently I was wrong all along. Talking to a child, explaining things and reasoning with them, taking away their toys, forbidding to partake in activities they like, grounding them, enforcing the rules and explaining that action have consequences has absolutely no effect on them. None of this works, and therefore the little rascals must be hit to understand, or to develop a sense of right and wrong through violence! Oh man, I’m glad you’re here LC to tell me these things. Here I was, suggesting that people waste their time and put love, reason, time and effort into effective parenting, when all they have to do is smack their kid around and they’ll learn their lesson. I wish I had your insight, I guess I’m just too naive.
And what did you call people like myself or the poster who goes by John Galt? Libertardians or something? Extra points for creativity, buddy. I can only hope to possess your mastery of the language and the ability to craft such wonderful insults. Because it’s true after all, you saw right through me. I am a libertarian and my ideas about good parenting exclude being violent toward defenseless children, therefore I must also be a retard! Again, LC, I can only hope to be as smart as you one day. Please enlighten me, I’ve been in the dark for too long, obviously. I mean, who in their right mind would be against spanking children? That’s just crazy talk!
Maybe, one day, when I’m as smart as LC, I’ll understand why it’s ok to hit a child to correct a certain behavior, but it’s not ok to do the same thing to a spouse/partner. I mean, why can’t I just hit my family members each time they do something I don’t like? LC obviously does this to his kids, calls it discipline and don’t you even dare saying there’s anything wrong with that. But if I advocated here that he does the same thing to his wife, who, let’s say needed to be taught a lesson, then that would be classified as domestic abuse. But making kids understand things by being violent towards them is different. How exactly?
If there’s one thing that a child needed from their parents, it’s to feel safe. The threat of violence makes them feel anything but. So go ahead, LC, enjoy abusing your kids. But something tells me they won’t enjoy it as much as you will.
“Wow, this LC guy speaks like a true abuser.”
Obviously you missed my post where i said spankings should be reserved for the most egregious of violations that can result in the loss of life, limb, or eyesight. So, scroll back up, and have a look. I’ve repeated this multiple times, but yet you seem to continuously equate this to me pulling off “the child called it” levels of abuse.
spanking =\= making a child inhale ammonia, holding his/her hand on a stove, etc
“And I just love his argument”
I love your argument that a spanking is equivalent to me holding my child’s hand to a hot stove. Totally blown out of proportion, or, as others have used on here previously, “conflated”. That is a common tactic among anti-gun fanatics coincidentally enough.
“Yes LC, there’s no research at all proving what detrimental effect spanking a child can have in his/her later years and in their development in general. I just made it all up a few hours ago and I bring it up for no reason, just to piss people off. Yeah, that must be it.”
That explains your lack of credible citations and the anti-spanking crowd’s false equivalence comparing children to dogs and other such nonsense. You have provided nothing, so yes, I would say you are pulling that out of your @ss. Furthermore, where is the evidence that spanking, reserved only for the most egregious of violations, results in psychological harm? Abuse obviously does, which includes daily spankings for behavior not deserving of it, but again, you are attempting to generalize all spanking as the worst case scenario outcome.
“Reading LC’s posts makes me sick.”
You trying to slander occasional spankers like myself, who HAVE raised outstanding children, as child abusers, makes me sick. You are the very problem with the other side of the opposition and, with your fanatical behavior, you cry wolf with the terms “child abuse” so much that the term loses its meaning. Oh gee, who does this sound like? (oh right, anti-gun people).
” But apparently I was wrong all along”
Keep attacking that strawman. In the meantime, if you see my responses above, you will see how I support doing all of those things you mentioned FIRST, reserving spanking for the serious things that truly warrant spanking or when all options are exhausted, like playing with firearms, throwing rocks at cars, etc, which can result in loss of life, limb, or eyesight.
“I guess I’m just too naive.”
Thats the first thing you said so far that I agree with. You are naive, like other Libertardians. No doubt your children are the ones in the restaurant running around, raising hell and irritating other customers, or the little spawns of satan running around in car parking lots. They’re probably the kids that will play with firearms and accidentally shoot somebody, or intentionally shoot somebody like the next Adam Lanza. Isn’t conflating situations fun?
“And what did you call people like myself or the poster who goes by John Galt? Libertardians or something? ”
LIBERTARDIAN. yes. As in naive anarchists that dont believe in any rules or standards because you actually think all human beings are capable of functioning in such an environment.
“exclude being violent toward defenseless children,”
If a child is playing with a gun, after you repeated explained to them why they shouldn’t do it, and they do it anyways, is swatting them on the ass “violent”? is it equivalent to Dave Pelzer levels of abuse?
“again, LC, I can only hope to be as smart as you one day”
Not even on my worst day, and on your most pinnacle level of intellectual enlightenment, can you ever hope to be as “smart” as I am EVER. But keep up the high aspirations.
“Maybe, one day, when I’m as smart as LC, I’ll understand why it’s ok to hit a child to correct a certain behavior, but it’s not ok to do the same thing to a spouse/partner.”
You will understand once you grow up and your kid plays with your firearms for the first time, or throws rocks at oncoming traffic, or runs around a market parking lot unattended, or vandalizes property of another beloved property owner and you realize a child wont have the same level of understanding as your spouse.
“LC obviously does this to his kids, calls it discipline and don’t you even dare saying there’s anything wrong with that”
You missed the part where my kids only got spanked a single handful of times for actions that would have resulted in life, limb, or eyesight after all other efforts were exhausted. But why stick to the facts? you are pulling the same strategy as anti-gun people right now. Its quite comical. Or sad. Maybe you have ongoing daddy issues and need to grow up.
“How exactly?”
I explained in multiple posts, but you apparently missed those. Go back and do some reading.
“If there’s one thing that a child needed from their parents, it’s to feel safe. The threat of violence makes them feel anything but.”
There is no threat of violence. Again, with the false equivalence.
“So go ahead, LC, enjoy abusing your kids. But something tells me they won’t enjoy it as much as you will.”
My kids are productive citizens, like I said before. One is in Pre-Med, another is a engineering major. They both are pro-gun, they both have moderate progressive views like I do, and they both vehemently support spanking for the same reasons I did. But, unlike you and others like you, they have the intellectual capacity to be able to understand the difference between the circumstances of rarely spanking for the most egregious of actions, and outright Dave Pelzer-levels of abuse. Apparently you lack the intellectual capacity to be able to understand such elementary concepts.
@ Mr. Galt:
I was spanked when I was a child. I was not taught that those with authority have the right to abuse those who are powerless to stop them. Your assertion is incorrect.
Great news if your name is Joe Moe.
I am against all corporal punishment of children. If other people want to spank, so be it. However if you are leaving bruises or breaking skin, you are messing up. A bruise is internal bleeding, you are still causing actual damage, not just the sensation of pain. A lot of people like to bring up their own anecdotal evidence that it was good for them (not understanding that the hitting is likely what propelled their negative behavior but anyway). If you can bring up your single experience then I can bring up the experiences where kids were not even punished, let alone spanked, and are great. Note: not being punished is not the same as letting them get away with and avoiding natural consequences of bad behavior.
This is important for the gun community, because when you use violence as a solution with your kids then they will see violence as a solution for their problems.
Well said.
Agree with everything except: If other people want to spank, so be it.
Wow…you can’t tell the difference between violence and discipline? Let me guess, you have some serious issues don’t you?
Hitting someone is an act of violence.
It’s pretty clear cut.
It is clear cut. And hitting someone (which you state is violence) can be justified.
Michael, do you ‘discipline’ your partner by hitting them? If the answer is yes, then you should probably be arrested. If the answer is no, then why is it OK to do the same thing to a defenseless child?
I think there are people associated with certain religions who’d argue it’s okay to hit your wife.
In some cases, they’d even argue it’s okay to kill her.
Arizona Man Says ‘Islamic Law’ Allows Him to Kill His Wife
http://www.clarionproject.org/news/arizona-man-says-islamic-law-allows-him-kill-his-wife
They probably got their ass swatted once because they drove daddy’s tractor into the ditch when they were 12 years old and grew up to blame their current abysmal situation on that moment of discipline.
Ok we now have the cast for Breaking Bad: The Next Generation….
http://www.amctv.com/shows/breaking-bad
Beating kids until they get bruises isn’t abuse, only to sissy effeminate whiney nanny state libtards.
People are too soft these days
Yeah, we need to go further..let’s make sure we break some bones!
That’ll teach those kids to RESPECT MY AUTHORITAH!
I actually just meant that in a sarcastic satirical way
It’s infuriating to read all this crap defending giving children bruises as somebody who was beaten as a child..
Wouldn’t be the least bit surprised they’d also defend public executions by firing squad like they do in North Korea, because they sound so statist and authoritarian.
Ah, thanks for the clarification.
Yep, there are just as many Statists and authoritarians on the Right as there are on the Left, and some of them are POTG.
You will obey!
You will comply!
I am in charge!
Do you hear me, boy?!
This thread is just full of bad arguments. For those of you who may be playing Rhetorical Bingo, you can now mark “reductio ad absurdum” on your scorecard.
I am puzzled by the oft repeated notion that a spanking teaches the child right from wrong. My only experiences in life inform me that all a spanking teaches is what pisses the spanker off, which varies according to alcohol consumption or how abusive the boss was at work that day.
The problem in the U.S. today (and we aren’t alone) is the seriously conflicting views about what is acceptable behavior. Kids hear/read that Clinton smoked, that Obama smoked a lot, that the former Governor of Minnesota thought it was OK, that Tony Blair said it was OK, that the physician next door apparently smokes…..but that the local PD will stick a kid in juvie for a year, or an adult for two years, for pot possession.
The complexities enter into contemporary views on sexual behavior. I’d hate to be a twenty-year-old male college student in CA these days. The notion of stopping just before intercourse in order to get contractual approval sounds a bit peculiar. Saying ‘no’ worked pretty well thirty years ago….
So when a young person hears from authoritative people that everything is OK AND nothing is OK, a spanking isn’t going to fix the problem. Or the country.
So a single swat on the ass for playing with your gun is the same as beating the child until he/she cannot walk because he/she spilt a beverage?
who knew! LOL (dumbass)
There has not been a reputable parenting book written in the last 40 years that recommend spanking as an effective means of disciplining children. People who hit children, and justify hiring children, are the result of unprocessed child abuse.
There is no statistical or psychological justification for it. People who hit children are damaged abusers who should be arrested for assault, even if it doesn’t leave a bruise.
“There has not been a reputable parenting book written in the last 40 years that recommend spanking as an effective means of disciplining children.”
Uh huh, and you can’t go a New York minute these days without hearing someone decrying the state of our society and the “me-first” self-centered, self-absorbed attitudes of those that have come of age in those last 30-40 years. Coincidence? I think no.
Not hitting a child does not automatically equal being permissive.
One could just as easily have parents who smack their son when he talks back to them, but then permissively let him torture animals in the backyard.
Discipline does not require physical assault.
This is the point that is important. A parent has, or should have, a wide variety of negative reinforcements available to drive home the unacceptability of certain behavior (deprivations of privilege). However, there is a reality that often undercuts that better parenting: When the two parents often disagree about what is punishable, or do not both accept how important consistency of rules is, the effect of negative reinforcement is quickly dissipated, is undercut, and one of the frustrated parents often turns to physical punishment.
It is also true that poorer parents often are in short supply of privileges to revoke.
Maybe discipline does not require physical assault. But discipline can be attained by means of physical assault. Now the question is John, what is morally wrong with inducing temporary pain and non-permanent injury as a means of obtaining obedience. And in the case of alternate methods, is mental pain better than physical pain?
It’s funny how parents stop ‘disciplining’ their kids by hitting them the minute their child grows large and strong enough to fight back. You’re not one to protest hitting a defenseless child, are you Matt? As long as you put a nice sounding term on it like discipline, I mean.
I wonder how many kids who got seriously smacked around go on to become cops…the ones that end up in the news for excessive force.
The last time my mom tried to spank me I was 16 and weighed somewhere north of 200 pounds. I laughed my ass off for a good five minutes after that.
When I was big enough that hitting me was going to be an issue, I was sent out to chop wood or something of that sort. But “hard labor” is seen as taboo now too.
In my experience, spanking stops not because the child grows old enough and strong enough to fight back, but because the child is old enough to be reasoned with, and to understand long-term consequences and more evolved punishments. For young children who have not yet reached the age of reason, a quick not-actually-painful swat on the rear end is an effective way to immediately curb improper behavior. You can’t explain to a young child that running around the restaurant like an ape is impolite to the other diners, because they have no concept of impolite yet, and their memory is only slightly longer than that of a goldfish.
@Matt in FL said:
“For young children who have not yet reached the age of reason, a quick not-actually-painful swat on the rear end is an effective way to immediately curb improper behavior. You can’t explain to a young child that running around the restaurant like an ape is impolite to the other diners, because they have no concept of impolite yet, and their memory is only slightly longer than that of a goldfish.”
So because they can’t comprehend, you have to resort to hitting? You can’t redirect them?
Shouldn’t we treat children as well as we treat our dogs?
Why You Should Never Hit Your Dog
http://www.realclearscience.com/blog/2013/07/why-you-should-never-hit-your-dog.html
Animal behaviorist and University of Wisconsin professor Patricia McConnell describes the results on her blog:
“The most confrontational, and I would argue, aggressive, behaviors on the part of the owners resulted in the highest levels of aggressive responses from the dogs. 43% of dogs responded with aggression to being hit or kicked, 38% to having an owner grab their mouth and take out an object forcefully, 36% to having a muzzle put on (or attempted?), 29% to a “dominance down,” 26% to a jowl or scruff shake.”
“Violence begets violence, aggression begets aggression,” McConnell added. Her conclusion is corroborated by additional studies. In 2008, Belgian scientists analyzed the performance of thirty-three dog-handling teams in the Belgian military. They found that the dogs classified as “low-performance” were punished more often than “high-performance” dogs. These sanctions included abrasive leash pulls and hanging the dogs by their collars. The following year, researchers from the U.K. detailed the findings of a study that examined dogs kept in shelters, discovering that attempts by humans to assert dominance over canines resulted in increased aggression.
In February 2004, a paper in Animal Welfare by Elly Hiby and colleagues at the University of Bristol compared the relative effectiveness of positive and punitive methods for the first time. The dogs became more obedient the more they were trained using rewards. When they were punished, on the other hand, the only significant change was a corresponding rise in the number of bad behaviors.
@Matt
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Please do not have any kids.
“Please do not have any kids”
Likewise, Pierogie, you also should abstain from reproduction. We’re tired of the adam lanzas and chos…
“So because they can’t comprehend, you have to resort to hitting? You can’t redirect them?”
typical response of somebody with no child raising experience.
You stupid, fvcking douchebags /double facepalm/. Is it so hard to comprehend that you dont even regularly spank your children? is it so hard to comprehend that you dont cause debilitating injury when disciplining them? is it so hard to comprehend that spanking is a “nuclear option” for the most egregious of behavior violations, such as starting fires, throwing rocks at cars, playing with firearms, etc? and that petty, insignificant mistakes like spilling beverages or being too loud dont warrant spanking?
jesus fvcking christ. people and their absolutism. LiberTARDians. God forbid people actually use common sense and discretion.
Im sure you two butt monkeys are also the “ALL TAXATION IS VIOLENCE AGAINST THE PERSON! ALL GOVERNMENT IS TYRANNY!”
also, for christ’s sakes, dogs =/= people. LOL.
“grows large and strong enough to fight back”
OR because they’re, you know, actually old enough to be able to comprehend the end result of egregious behaviors, like playing with matches or firearms. o__O
@ Matt,
Very well put and well reasoned.
@ Mr. Galt:
Please explain to all of us the concept of “redirection.” Is it more effective than swatting?
We aren’t talking about dogs, we aren’t making comparisons of our children with dogs. In no way is a child’s mind equivalent to a dogs. Lets keep on topic and away from the strawmans.
It’s rather ironic.
If some of the folks posting comments in support of hitting kids were attacked by a belt-wielding giant who weighed 4 times as much and was twice as tall, I’m sure they wouldn’t hesitate to pull out their Glock and aim for center of mass.
Parents who hit their children need to examine their anger-management issues.
Apparently it’s just fine and dandy to hit defenseless children and call it ‘discipline.’ Would they treat adults the same way? No, because if they did it to another adult they’d either get arrested or the adult would fight / shoot back in self defense. Oh the double standards I see here…
I think hitting an adult if they have done something wrong is entirely appropriate if the circumstances warrant.
@Chicago Steve said:
“I think hitting an adult if they have done something wrong is entirely appropriate if the circumstances warrant.”
Aside from self defense or defense of another person, when would it be appropriate to hit an adult?
Funny, my child is 9 and has been spanked about 5 times. Never was it in anger. Never was I out of control. But it did serve to focus her attention on what she had done wrong and she has not repeated those actions A swat on the bottom sure as hell beats getting hit by a car because they didn’t listen and ran out into the road.
Tell us Galt, how many children do you have?
Yes, we know. You had a debate class in college. I don’t care. The real world is not a sterile classroom.
@Chris Mallory said:
“Tell us Galt, how many children do you have? Yes, we know. You had a debate class in college. I don’t care. The real world is not a sterile classroom.”
Yet another ad hominem attack based on a projected fantasy of who I am.
The defensiveness and emotionalism of people who support spanking or beating children is rather revealing. So far there hasn’t been much in the way of any rational discussion.
The strong emotional reactions suggest that people:
a) really haven’t thought it through rationally and are simply doing what was done to them
b) feel guilty about the spanking or beatings they’ve given their children
c) feel shame, hurt and rage over the spankings or beatings they received as a child
d) feel inadequate in their parenting skills
e) some combination of the above
Thats the precise problem with radical libertardians.
They believe in theories and abstract variables when it comes to real world problems. Hence, they are fundamentally disconnected from reality in every way.
Of course, to them, spanking is equivalent to abusing the child, i.e. taking their hand and placing it on a hot stove, imprisoning their child in the chokie, or beating the shit out of them until they’re crippled. That is what happens when one is enamoured with absolutist ideology.
@ Mr. Galt:
@ Mr. Galt:
False comparison. A father slapping his child in the butt is not equivalent to a man beating a stranger with a belt.
A person who has never been spanked could suffer from anger-management issues. This statement has no merit and proves absolutely nothing.
Sorry, not true. I don’t care what “child advocates” claim spanking is not abuse. And neither is spanking the same as beating. A child who is spanked 4-5 times during childhood isn’t being abused. A child who is “spanked” 4-5 times a day or spanked multiple times for weeks or even years on end is being abused, is being beaten. There’s a big difference in that.
I was once principal of a school which did not employ corporal punishment. Discipline at our school was good because I had the academic background and was articulate enough and inventive enough to deal effectively with even the most pissy little brats without taking a paddle to their behinds. But what if the kid is smarter than his parents, more articulate and quick-witted? There’s a place for spanking. Sometimes it’s necessary for adults to show that they’re in charge—doing it physically is a sure-fire way to cut through the passive-aggressive whining and BSinng and get that important point across.
@Garrison Hall said:
“But what if the kid is smarter than his parents, more articulate and quick-witted? There’s a place for spanking. Sometimes it’s necessary for adults to show that they’re in charge”
So the lesson here is don’t be smarter than your parents? And the only solution is physical violence?
Great way to train the future Sheeple of America.
@ Mr. Galt:
Garrison never said the lesson was to not be smarter than your parents and he never said the only solution is physical violence which makes this… you guessed it another Strawman. Then we top it off with a quick ad hominem attacking the character and the training ability of Garrison the principle. Par for the course – John.
@Garrison Hall said:
“I don’t care what “child advocates” claim spanking is not abuse. And neither is spanking the same as beating.”
Let’s just ignore data and principles that conflict with our firmly held conviction. Sounds like Shannon Watts.
‘Violence Is Violence’: Adrian Peterson and the Science of Spanking
http://bleacherreport.com/articles/2201080-violence-is-violence-adrian-peterson-and-the-science-of-spanking
The numbers represent a staggering disconnection among scientific data, global attitudes and the behavior of a large percentage of American parents. For Grogan-Kaylor, the problem stems from the fact that spanking a child is the only form of physical violence against another human being that is compartmentalized as a “different story,” both in American minds and American law.
“That’s what’s so confusing in the public conversation,” he said. “We set that aside. We say, ‘This is something different. This is corrective,'” he said.
Decades of study suggest otherwise. “We are finding more and more that it’s not a different kind of violence. Violence is violence.”
Morin said that distrust of science and psychology plays a role in American attitudes toward corporal punishment. “There are plenty of parents who think the psychology community colluded together to come up with 101 studies that spanking is bad, but we don’t talk about all the good it does,” she said.
She also cites a prevailing opinion that the other nations of the world will learn their lesson when a generation of un-spanked children grows up lazy and incorrigible. Once again, the research disagrees. “In the countries where it’s been banned, there are fewer mental health issues,” she said. “People are not running amok now because they weren’t spanked.”
@ Mr. Galt:
The same article you referenced states:
and
I didn’t know Galt owned a piece of my child, because when I travel to other countries my child is my child. Seems that portion is specific on culture.
But ultimately John, we are of a different culture, and you appear to be asserting that your culture is different and better than mine and you are trying to do so with some “studies” from 1930s forward on the basis that those studies and opinions of researchers are superior to thousands of years of butt swatting. Which they may or may not be.
Also, I have some studies too:
http://www.newsmax.com/US/spanking-studies-children-spock/2010/01/07/id/345669/
A study entailing 2,600 interviews pertaining to corporal punishment, including the questioning of 179 teenagers about getting spanked and smacked by their parents, was conducted by Marjorie Gunnoe, professor of psychology at Calvin College in Grand Rapids, Michigan.
Gunnoe’s findings, announced this week: “The claims made for not spanking children fail to hold up. They are not consistent with the data.”
Those who were physically disciplined performed better than those who weren’t in a whole series of categories, including school grades, an optimistic outlook on life, the willingness to perform volunteer work, and the ambition to attend college, Gunnoe found. And they performed no worse than those who weren’t spanked in areas like early sexual activity, getting into fights, and becoming depressed. She found little difference between the sexes or races.
Another study published in the Akron Law Review last year examined criminal records and found that children raised where a legal ban on parental corporal punishment is in effect are much more likely to be involved in crime.
A key focus of the work of Jason M. Fuller of the University of Akron Law School was Sweden, which 30 years ago became the first nation to impose a complete ban on physical discipline and is in many respects “an ideal laboratory to study spanking bans,” according to Fuller.
Since the spanking ban, child abuse rates in Sweden have exploded over 500 percent, according to police reports. Even just one year after the ban took effect, and after a massive government public education campaign, Fuller found that “not only were Swedish parents resorting to pushing, grabbing, and shoving more than U.S. parents, but they were also beating their children twice as often.”
“Enlightened” parenting also seems to have produced increased violence later. “Swedish teen violence skyrocketed in the early 1990s, when children that had grown up entirely under the spanking ban first became teenagers,” Fuller noted. “Preadolescents and teenagers under fifteen started becoming even more violent toward their peers. By 1994, the number of youth criminal assaults had increased by six times the 1984 rate.”
Nor is she alone in her conclusions. Dr. Diana Baumrind of the University of California, Berkeley and her teams of professional researchers over a decade conducted what is considered the most extensive and methodologically thorough child development study yet done. They examined 164 families, tracking their children from age four to 14. Baumrind found that spanking can be helpful in certain contexts and discovered “no evidence for unique detrimental effects of normative physical punishment.”
She also found that children who were never spanked tended to have behavioral problems, and were not more competent than their peers.
So it seems that studies aren’t really that useful. It also seems that your unsubstantiated assertion/opinion regarding swatting of butts and the purposeful and exaggerative categorizing of such as “assault and battery” is not greater than the opinion of my own.
@Garrison Hall said:
“doing it physically is a sure-fire way to cut through the passive-aggressive whining and BSinng and get that important point across.”
That sounds like the same rationale that police use for the force they exert when interacting with citizens who:
* know more about the Constitution than they do
* are videotaping the police
* ask for an officer’s badge number
* blow bubbles at them (YouTube: Officer Bubbles)
* sit peacefully to protest
* refuse to answer questions
* don’t consent to searches
* etc.
Basically, contempt of cop is license for police to use whatever force they feel like.
The important point: you will comply, you will obey, you will RESPECT MY AUTHORITAH!
I got the belt on my bare bottom as far back as I remember. I had marks.
How old is the kid?
An I have a kid, I so far have never used a belt. Just rarely my hand on the covered bottom.
Stephanie had looked good before. Hadn’t seen a show in a while an wow the mug shot shows a coyote ugly. …
Cause spanking your kid’s covered bottom is such an effective form of communication?
It seems the message you’re sending is “fear those in authority.”
Since the purpose of it is obedience it seems you are correct. So… it’s working great in that regard, Yes. Good observation.
Just when you thought it couldn’t get any weirder
Bitch done caught the Pickin Pox
The kid had a bruise? A freakin’ bruise? Call out the militia! These people must die!!!!
What justification is there for battering a child?
Battering? Battering? Are you some kind of freakin’ lunatic Dr. Spock? Stop being so damn melodramatic.
Here’s the reason for “battering” a child — they come out more crispy when you deep fry them.
Louisiana law allows for parents to discipline their children with force. My mom slapping me a few times when I was young was good for me. If he’s being charged with excessive force there is a reason for that. There is also a huge difference between a slap or spoon my ass vs abusing a child. Every single study has shown that abusing a child CAN result in extreme trauma. But I’m sure some peoples’ anecdotal experience of being beaten and turning out “just fine” is all you’ll need to justify your parenting. I know another group of people who use feelings instead of facts to justify their beliefs. Can you guys think of who those people are? Believe it or not, a family and a house is not a measure of happiness. Justifying your own abuse because you have stuff reminds me if a users who cover for their perpetrators. You’re probably the same people who believe societies problem is discipline. Doing this to an adult is called felony battery. Doing this to a child should result in the same charge. He crossed the line between parenting the way he believes is right and abuse.
Franky SoG was never a good reflection on gun owners anyway, unless you fell into the lowest common denominator that watches reality shows in the first place.
@TheSmirkingWolf said:
“Franky SoG was never a good reflection on gun owners anyway”
Amen.
As someone who is working to introduce new people to shooting, the 2nd Amendment, armed self defense, etc., that show just feeds into the worst of the worst POTG stereotypes.
Unless we start drawing in people from all walks of life and reach out to different demographics, the 2nd Amendment is doomed in the long term.
A skank and a punk, what a pair they are…
I am so tired of hearing about this whole family/show/whatever.
Gospel.
First, there is a difference between liberalism and leftism.
Second, there is a lot of leftist hokum in this thread.
Third, the Left damages everything it touches. Everything.
What exactly constitutes “leftist hokum” in this thread?
It is amazing how much ugly makeup can hide!
Half these comments were left by hippies…let people parent, seriously spanking a child is up to the parent of that child. Shouldn’t be anyone else’s decision.
@Jonah said:
“Half these comments were left by hippies”
You have zero clue about the people leaving comments. Your ad hominen attack is merely designed to deflect from a rational discussion.
“seriously spanking a child is up to the parent of that child. Shouldn’t be anyone else’s decision.”
So your children are your property to do with as you please?
Not small human beings who are trying to figure out the world, and need love and guidance?
@ Mr. Galt:
Strawman. Again. Still.
+10000000 John Galt. I have 4 grown sons. I never did anything more than a gentle swat at a very young age. They all turned out great. Especially my 2 youngest who live with me. All through school they got awards for good behavior and conduct . And yeah that was unusual. Being consistent since infancy is the key. AND what I NEVER saw addressed was the issue of some lowlife stepdad beating Stephs kid. My oldest son is 40 and if I had heard of his idiot stepdad beating him( long divorced from his mother)I would have killed him. My Christian minister brother doesn’t beat his (10!) kids either and they all turned out good. And my 2 kids at home never yelled ,got violent or raised their hand to me or their mother.
That kind of loving parenting is hard work, but has a huge payoff.
Train up a child in the way he should go. When he is old he shall not depart from it. The son I had the least to do with( he’s 37) is doing the WORST. There is no substitute for a dad who cares. That’s all I have to say about this.
Whoa John!
Are you actually condoning this action???
That family has more issues than American Rifleman magazine.
Well “mr” galt I have a kid under 3 so you dont like I have swated with my hand on a covered bottom,… how unfortunate you cant do anything! Have you ever had Any Kids?
An what discipline were you given? A “time out”? Are you in California?
You sound like you’ve got anger-management issues.
I feel sorry for your child.
You sound like you are from California.
I feel sorry for your child.
And still you don’t answer the simple question, John.
How. Many. Children. Do. You. Have?
What is your personal experience?
You feel “sorry” for my kid galt? You are Sorry.
A sorry excuse…
I did serve in the Army. I got a good family, an you think I have anger issues? I have not been in a fight in years, never beat my wife, or been in jail.
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Some kids need the crap kicked out of them to one degree or another. Read: Isla Vista Massacre. That feminized little punk would’ve known better if mummy and daddy weren’t buying him everything instead of teaching him some damn manners.
this thread makes my brain hurt…
idk how i would raise my kids. im 24 and have no plans for having kids anytime soon. its something that i would have to agree on with the mother of my children.
i got spanked. it never hurt as my dad would slow down just before the belt hit me. no bruising, no nothing.
My grandma however would get the switch and pull no punches! yikes!!! it was far scarier than any horror hollywood could conjure up. i now am in school, work a full time 56k job, and have my own car paid off.
idk what ill do. i believe in positive and negative reinforcement. i do know that how a parent raises their child is not my business. until it is.
This started at the bottom, and went downhill from there.
The lack of whipping children as a means of punishment for bad behavior is the reason our jails are overflowing!
I didn’t get spanked as a kid. I got put in the corner if I did something bad enough. Never threw a temper tantrum when I didn’t get my way. Was I mad? Yes. Did I let my parents know? Yes. But I never accused them of being mean or kick or scream or told them I hated them. Well, I did tell my dad I hated him when I was a teenager. But he sat me down and explained why I didn’t get my way, and I actually listened and understood, and was ok with it. I remember times I would get grounded, and an hour or two later, I’d ask to go play outside and was allowed to do so. Thinking about it now, my parents are geniuses. They knew just telling me they were disappointed in my actions was usually enough to get me to behave, because I hated disappointing them. Maybe I’m just weird, IDK.
what the hell. they get arrested for spanking their kid. Jesus Christ a bruise on the lower ass cheek my god i got beatings worse than that for back talk i wont even mention the whippings i got for gun safety screw ups. children need discipline they need to know there are consequences to actions. just look at this present time out generation they are spoiled rotten brats good for not one damn thing
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TMZ is the most hideous form of America currently infesting it’s people today.
If you think gossip about other peoples family lives is entertainment than you are the kind of person that also believes Ebola is coming for you personally.
It would be nice to find out that it’s also 100% effective against spelling trolls too.
This is what happens when anti-gun activists start running out of ammo for their “cause”. We dig until we find anything gun related because it works. The problem with 99% of my generation is the feeling of self entitlement and that they can do what they want. A good smack on the butt isn’t the end of the world. Main stream media has taken discipline of children and made it a thing of the past because now everyone gets gold starts and participation awards. Wonder why crimes rise and idiots are abroad? It’s because even something as old fashioned as punishing your child has become a crime. That kids pride was hurt more than he was.
Big deal, my parents busted my ass when I was a kid, they used a belt sometimes, or made me pick my own switch (for those of you who don’t know a switch is a small limb off a tree). I hold no issues with my parents for this as I am sure I probably needed it.
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